Friday, April 4, 2014

Delivery Differences: Baby #1 vs. Baby #2

Our children, Scotty and Kennedy, were born 2 years and 17 days apart. Both were born by way of a run-of-the-mill, uncomplicated vaginal birth with the blessed assistance of an epidural.

Beyond that, though, their labors and deliveries were night and day. For starters, Scotty’s total labor and delivery time was nine hours, while Kennedy’s was just shy of four. Here’s how they stack up when compared to each other:

The Water Factor
Baby #1: With Scotty, my water had to be broken.
Baby #2: While sweeping the floor one morning at 10:20 a.m., I felt a trickle down below, followed by the cliché-ish description that “I felt like I was peeing on myself.” An hour or so later, when I lowered my big butt onto the wheelchair at the hospital’s valet drop-off, the levy broke. Big time.
There. Was. Water. Everywhere.

The Hair Factor
Baby #1: I was induced for Scotty; Scott and I inked the date a week before it happened. Therefore, I had ample time to do everything – including take care of the hair situation in the southern hemisphere.
Baby #2: It was a jungle down there. My husband joked that our daughter just might come out with a safari hat on.

The Ick Factor
Baby #1: After tending to my lady bits, I was free to luxuriate in what I – no lie – remember to be a 40-minute shower before heading to the hospital for the induction. I was clean as a whistle.
Baby #2: No shower. Kennedy’s labor felt as if I was being shot out of a canon. I had little time to even process what was happening. And before you say that I should have already showered by 10: 20 a.m., I was nine months pregnant, with an ass the size of Texas, and moving at the rate of a sedated moose.
I was lucky to have even made it out of the house properly clothed.

The Push Factor
Baby #1: After nearly four hours of Pitocin, Scotty’s push time clocked in at 2 hours and 41 minutes – you could say he was a biggin at 8 pounds, 11 ounces. While The Juice minimized the discomfort somewhat, pushing Scotty out still required the presence of a rope – yes, a rope, which the nurse held at one end as I pulled and yanked on the other. Oh, and TMI alert: I built a log cabin right there on the table.
Baby #2: No rope. No embarrassing defecation (thank God). I pushed for not even 30 minutes with Kennedy, who was 6 pounds, 14 ounces. (After the path Scotty had cleared, I’m sure she thought she was coming down a slide.)

The Milk Maid Factor
Baby #1: Nursing was easy-peasy. From the very first latch to my last suckle 17 months later, it was pure bliss.
Baby #2: There were times when chewing and swallowing glass would have been preferable. The first two weeks were hell: Cracked, bleeding nipples, the sensation of someone grinding a Scotch-Brite pad against my breast…the works. At one point, I thought it was her and scheduled an appointment with her pediatrician to have her frenulum clipped. When that wasn’t necessary, I thought it must be me and cried out to just about every lactation consultant within a 20-mile radius of our home. Guess what? It was neither. The problem eventually worked itself out, and it’s thankfully been smooth sailing ever since.

And you know what? If I had to do it all again, I wouldn't change one thing.

What differences/surprises did you encounter during your pregnancy(ies)?

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32 comments:

  1. All 3 of my beautiful boys birth had more similarities then differences. With all 3 I woke up around 4 am in labor. All 3 were easy 3 pushes and they were out, no epidural births. The difference was the length of my labor. With my 1st little miracle (Who is now 25!) He wasn't born till 10:30 pm. My middle baby at 11:30 am. Very convenient. As I could then have lunch! My youngest was born at 5 am.nI was only at the hospital for an hour with him. He was close to being a home birth and he too came with some ick which is why, to this day his nickname is Stinky!

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    1. See? That just goes to show how women's bodies vary when in the midst of childbirth. I find this so fascinating! I don't think I will ever tire of hearing about these stories...

      Thank you for sharing!

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  2. I'm still laughing at "the hair factor." I had never even thought of that issue when it came to childbirth!

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    1. Honestly, can I tell you how this started? Every baby born in my family was born with A TON of hair. I mean, enough for a haircut right off the bat -- and, as predicted, our children were no different. So one day, my husband and I were sitting around talking right before the delivery of #1, and it occurred to us that if I had too much hair "down there," you wouldn't be able to tell the difference between me or the baby's head.

      I'm dead serious. We actually discussed this...

      Thank you for commenting! :-)

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  3. I love this list! I'm due in 8 weeks and I've heard there can be a difference between #1 and #2 so I'm going into this one again with no expectations.

    BTW-I love your daughters name, if this one turned out to be a girl that was the name I was pushing for.

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    1. Hi, Jessica! And congrats on baby #2!!! This is a fabulous time...can you believe that my daughter is now only 6 months old, and I am already nostalgic for the time I carried her in my belly?

      Best of luck with everything, and, hell, I'm doctor so what do I know, but chances are, your second delivery will go waaaaaay faster than the first. (I'm sure you've already been told that already, but, really, that is often the case.) Relax and just enjoy it.

      Thank you for your kind words about Kennedy. It worked perfectly for us because we wanted a C or K name, and I've always loved the name (and Jackie Kennedy), so it was a no-brainer for me.)

      Thank you for commenting, and I hope you visit again!

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  4. Oh my gosh, I am HOPING for the same experience I had with my first delivery if/when I do it again. Push time, 26 minutes. Labor for 17.5 hours, but with the epidural, so I never felt anything worse than mild cramping, and I swear I was healed down below within a couple weeks. Never had to take anything more than a tylenol. Nursing, however. Oh God, it's been such a hellish journey. I cried and bled and sobbed and bled. We used nipple shields for 3 months. It didn't stop hurting until after the fourth month. So it had BETTER be better next time!

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    1. Yeah, Sara, you're due for a better Milk Maid experience, so, yes, Godspeed on that one.

      Ahhh, the splendor of an epi. I loved mine both times and barely felt anything as well. I also should have included that I certainly would not change anything about either delivery, that's for sure. As different as they both were, I was cool with each at the time.

      It really is cool when you think about what our bodies can do.

      Thank you for commenting. :-)

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  5. My child births were both pretty different.

    1. I was in labor with Lauren for over 24 hours- just imagine that pain! But I did do the epidural. Also I had preeclampsia which almost made me had a c-section. Lauren didn't weigh much when she was born, she was 6lbs 7 ounces. Oh yeah, I had enough time to shower too before going to the hospital. She was born vaginally and the day she was due!

    2. Michelle I had gestational diabetes and really had to watch what I ate. Thanks to that I now drink a lot of water. Giving birth to Michelle wasn't bad at all, she just popped right on out within 4 or 5 hours. I was able to shower before going to the hospital since I was schedule to be induced since I was a week late. Michelle weighed 6lbs 11 ounces. I had a epidural with her as well.

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    1. Wow! You went through some stuff, Louida! But you have two beautiful girls to show for it, which makes everything all worth it in the end.

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience; like I said previously, I never tire of hearing women's stories...

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    2. Yep girl I went through some thangs! But like you said I have some beautiful girls to show for it and I wouldn't take any of it back. Enjoy your weekend!

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    3. "Some thangs."

      I say that all the time!!!! lol

      You really are my soul sister, Louida.

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  6. Having 4 c-sections, first was emergency, the second was a failed attempt at a vbac, the third was early in the morning and uninteresting, and last was the best with plenty of support and anti-nausea meds! No two were remotely the same.

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    1. OMG, April, you were a real trooper. Thank you for sharing your comments. And, yes, I agree with you that it seems to be that the general consensus is that no two deliveries (or pregnancies, for that matter) are remotely the same.

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  7. Wow! Those were night and day. I about peed my pants when you said 'built a log cabin' - took me a minute to process that one...best. analogy. ever. I had gestational diabetes with both, but only had to take insulin for the first because my doc diabetes doc was way more strict. Mine were night and day too with delivery. Both C-sections, but the first (Liana) was an induction with 30 hours of labor (never got to pushing), panicked nurses because of issues with babies heart rate ending in a 2am not-quite-emergency c-section followed by 7 days in the hospital due to my complications after. Rocco was a planned c-section with no labor or induction. Much easier except the anesthesia made the room spin for about 8 hours after which made me puke and not be able to hold the baby until they figured out the meds to to fix it. He had bad jaundice and some other issues, but all in all, a much better experience. Seems like you were reversed with your first being easier. Crazy!

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    1. Reading through these comments only serves to reiterate what I have long believed: Women are warrior goddesses. Period. Wow, Susan, you went through some things, too. Godspeed to you. Tell me, do you feel stronger after having gone through all that? Because you should...

      Actually, my second was waaaay easier than my first: the second was 4 total hours from beginning to end and only 30 minutes of pushing, unlike the 2.5 hours of pushing with Scotty and 9 hours from beginning to end. But, really all things, considered, both were relatively easy in the sense that there were both vaginal, with no complications, the babies and I left the hospital the day after, etc. Looking back now, I feel extremely blessed.

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  8. This was fun to read! Not the size of Texas though lol...I've only had one pregnancy and one birth experience. The strange thing about my son's birth is that I went to the ER for a serious migraine and didn't even realize I was in labor! I seriously didn't feel a contraction until I was about to deliver him and it was too late for the epidural.

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    1. Hi, Takei! Man, that must have been SCARY!!! I had an epi with both, but since the first one was a planned induction, I didn't actually feel any contractions, either...but, boy did I feel them the second time around! My OB promised my epi, though, and I got my juice!!

      No, the big butt wasn't fun.:-( I gained SO much more with my daughter than I did with my son! Thank God I am back in my old jeans. (I'm not quite back to my pre-baby weight, but at least I'm seeing progress and can fit into the old pants...)

      Thank you for commenting!

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  9. Our first child was over 8 hours of labor. The 2nd child we were lucky to get to the hospital on time. The doctor almost missed the delivery.

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    1. Okay, so you know of which I speak -- particularly how fast things can go with #2. I'm so glad the doctor made it!

      As a person who likes to have control, I've learned that the process of childbirth waits for no one.

      I hope you enjoy your Saturday, and thanks for commenting.

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  10. What a great idea for a post! My two were so different but each so special! Happy to have found you via SITS!

    Kristen
    www.mommyinsports.com

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    1. Hi, Kristen! And, yes, you can say that again about each delivery being special. Kennedy is our final child, and although she's only 6 months old, I find myself reminiscing already about those first few hours of her life.

      There. Is. Nothing. Like It.

      Thank you for commenting.

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  11. I could not help but laugh as I read this post...safari hat and slide...LOL! My two labor and deliveries were very different. They both started with my water breaking after midnight and without me being in active labor. The first time we rushed to the hospital and the nurse told me it would be awhile since I was not in active labor. She said I should get some sleep and offered me "something to help me sleep". That something was Dermerol, I didn't think she was offering me a REAL DEAL DRUG (I was waiting to read about drug options in my pregranacy book until I was closer to 40 weeks, I went into the labor the day I turned 38 week). So I was a Demerol Zombie, I was knocked out until I felt a contraction and then I would raise up and moan from the pain and then I would go back to sleep after it was over. I barely remember anything that happened and I ended up delivering via C-section. The next time I planned a VBAC attempt with a different doctor and at a different hospital. I did not even want to hear the word Demerol. I was very alert for my 25 hours of labor at the hospital and loved my doctor and nurses. I was ready for a C-section after 23 hrs, but my doctor wanted to wait 2 more hours since I was a 8 centimeters. At 25 hrs I was still at 8 centimeters and they performed the C-section. I had a fibroid that had grown and was blocking the birth canal :(
    I'm coming from the SITS Sharefest.

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    1. OMG. Wow. Now THAT is an experience. You are a trooper, Sonya. Wow. Just...wow. I do know a thing or two about fibroid complications: I have a fibroid in the exterior muscle lining of my uterus, which grew to a whopping 17 centimeters during my first pregnancy -- it was all of that estrogen. I had to be on modified bedrest, and the pain got so bad because, come to find, the fibroid ended up degenerating (dying) because it had outgrown its blood supply. PAINFUL.

      Thankfully, the fibroid was dead and calcified by the time my second pregnancy rolled around, so it wasn't an issue at all...

      Thank you so much for visiting and sharing your story. :-)

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  12. I just read this all over again, still LAUGHING!!!!!! Brilliant girlfriend.... Just brilliant!!!!

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    1. Again, WHEW!!!!! I thought you had banished me to freak territory, and had gone away, never to be heard from again.

      My candor...Ray, in posts like these, I just don't have a filter.

      Glad to have made you laugh! <3

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  13. MMMMMkay, that was amazingly honest and I was cringe-laughing through the whole thing...WAY too familiar! hahaha, the slide....hahhaah.
    You just made my Saturday girl!
    -Sandra

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    1. I <3 you, Sandra! I do. First, you were my SITSta...now you're my BFF (Bloggy Friend Forever.)

      Have an awesome Saturday, and thank you for the kind tweet. I appreciate it.

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  14. Stopping by from SITS Sharefest and that just made my morning!

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    1. Hi, Julie!! I'm glad to have made you smile. Otherwise, what's the point of putting it all out there for a post like this? lol

      If I made anyone laugh, it was worth it.

      Have an awesome weekend! And thank you for commenting.

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  15. Found you on the #sitssharefest, and glad I did! You have a great blog! Well I don't have a second child to compare my first experience with (my hubby and I are working on that though!), its interesting to hear how different each baby can be! Great post! :)

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    1. Thank you so very much, s jones -- and welcome!

      Yes, the fact that pregnancies can be so very different is indeed the understatement of the year! lol

      Best of luck to you and your hubby on #2!!

      Thank you for your kind words -- and for commenting. :-)

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