Monday, June 16, 2014

CURLY HAIR: COULD I...SHOULD I?

I never, ever thought I’d pose the question above – let alone pen a post about it. But a toddler swim class has a way of changing things.

Look at the photo above. It’s perfect: A camera-happy hubby (Scott) took this candid shot of his unsuspecting expectant wife (me) while she cuddled with their then only child (Scotty).

But I’m not referring to that. (As a side note, would you look at the rack I had back then? Jeez. But I digress…)

Look at my hair. My straight hair.

This is how I have rolled. For years.

The question of the moment is this: Do I stop straightening my hair for a while – during the summer months – and – GASP! – wear my hair in its natural style of wildly curly ringlets?

Here’s the deal: Scotty should have been done with his swim classes by now, but we were given an opportunity to attend the next session free of charge (more on that in Wednesday’s post). So I’m basically staring another eight weeks of pool time down the barrel…and then right after Scotty’s class ends, Kennedy’s will start up.

This all boils down to the fact that – for 16 straight weeks – my tedious yet coveted salon-grade blow-outs will all be for naught.

Unless I stop doing them and wear my hair…I can’t even believe I am typing this… in its naturally curly state, which is, for me, akin to venturing into uncharted waters (pun intended).

After combing over countless YouTube curly-hair-wash-and-go tutorials, I think I’ve found the system/products that will give me the results I’m looking for. I think. I won’t know until I try.

I’ve beat my hair into submission for a long, long time. After getting my blow-out method down to a science and then wearing my hair straight for all these years, I know how to deal with my hair while straight. I have it under control. To the contrary, I don’t know how to tame my wild, curly hair. Hell, for all I know, the tables could turn and my hair might be the one beating me into submission. Yeah, I’m kind of afraid…but also really, really intrigued by the prospect of changing things up – and liking it.

Sigh. Decisions, decisions.

Of course, should I take the plunge and go curly, of course I’ll have to post a video diary showing the results...

UPDATE: Click here to see the outcome of #OperationNaturallyCurly.
But I warn you: There is BIG hair ahead...



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64 comments:

  1. Curl it up, Courtney! You will look beautiful no matter how you wear it! I wish I had a choice. My hair just has a slight wave or frizz depending on the humidity but if I could let it be curly sometimes i would!

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    1. Oh, Susie. I am a classic case of "the grass is always greener..."

      What I would not give to have naturally straight hair. Although, I wholeheartedly realize that I need to cool it with thinking this way: I now have a daughter -- with very curly hair -- and the last thing I want is for her to think her hair would be better straight, you know? I don't want to give her a complex.

      That said, I'm leaning toward going curly, Susie. I am. I'm thinking of sneaking off to Sally's Beauty while the kids are napping (Scott's home today) and gather up all my product...

      I'll keep you post.

      Thank you for commenting!

      xo

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  2. I say go with whatever's easiest--if that means letting it be curly and crazy for the duration of your kids' swim classes, then do it. I know that you'll look lovely regardless! :)

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    1. Hi, Natalie!! Thank you SO much. I hope you're right. :-/

      It's just that I am so used to it straight. It's amazing how convincing (and comforting) habit is.

      But I am seriously tired of the time it takes to blow my mop out. A curly wash-n-go would shave HOURS off of my hair time.

      Sigh. I think I already have my answer...I just need to bite the bullet and do it!

      Thank you for commenting.

      xo

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  3. Do it do it now! LOL seriously I say try it you might actually love it :)

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    1. Oh, Cookie. here's to hoping we are both right.

      You have no idea how bad I want to like this...

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting! :-)

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  4. Courtney I clicked the banner to vote but I can't figure out how to cast my vote :(

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    1. You did it, Cookie! Thank you. All you have to do is click the banner. That's it. The banner leads to the Top Mommy Blog homepage, but simply clicking the banner -- on my blog -- registers a vote for me.

      Thank you SO much!

      xo

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  5. I wear my hair in its natural state and I do not like putting heat on it anymore. Give curly hair a chance and see what you think Courtney. Use good moisturizing products and a great gel for hold (I use Eco Styler Gel Brown). You'll do just fine. And if all else fails, throw your hair in a ponytail or bun.

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    1. Thanks so much for the encouragement, Louida: I need it...

      I've wonderful things about both the Eco Styler gels -- the Argan and the Olive oil. I already have the Kinky-Curly Curling Custard here, which I think is the one I'm going to try on the first go round.

      I'm going to run to Sally's after I put the kids down for a nap.

      Can you say NERVOUS? lol

      Thank you for commenting.

      xo

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  6. Curly-haird girls SOLIDARITY. I say rock the curls! It'll be so much easier for the next few months with all those swim classes. You'll figure out what techniques work best pretty quickly, I bet.

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    1. Sara, I SO hope I'll be able to get the hang of the necessary curly techniques. (This is SUCH the unknown for me!) You do make a good point about me figuring things out...eventually. There was a time when I couldn't straighten my hair worth squat, but I came to learn the ropes of that, too.

      To be continued. lol...

      Thank you for commenting. :-)

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  7. CURLY HAIR...So go for it! I have naturally curly hair and love it. Though I hated it when I was young and made fun of because everyone has perfectly straight hair and I had a curly hair helmet. But I love it now. I used to have it short, but now I'm going long.

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    1. Ooooh,Karen, this is exactly the kind of e-mail that feeds my courage -- just like the others! Thank you so much. You and I have something in common: I didn't know jack about taming my hair back in the day. Take a look at my "About the Hair" page. Look at my track picture from 7th grade.

      It. Makes. Me. Cringe.

      Here's to hoping that I can make magic with my curls...

      Thank you so much for commenting...and giving me hope!

      xo

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  8. Well you know I think your straight hair is beautiful but I LOVE curly hair. Do it! It's like effortless beauty. You don't even have to accessorize or anything when you have curly hair, it makes such a gorgeous statement.

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    1. Hi, there, Dina! You hit the nail on the head with regard to accessorizing -- or the lack of need to. You are so right: There's nothing like a head full of healthy, perfectly defined curls.

      Which is part of the reason -- okay, the primary reason -- I am nervous as hell: My expectations are high. HIGH.

      I waffle back and forth, Dina.

      HELP ME! lol

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  9. Curly. Be like Nike and Just Do It! Change is good...

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    1. Change. It is yet another impetus affecting this move. I love my straight hair. Lawd knows I do, but I am getting-- dare I admit this?

      Bored.

      We shall see...

      Thank you for visiting -- and commenting.

      xo

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  10. I actually used to wear my natural hair straightened all of the time while I was transitioning, and also a little after, by getting it pressed and flat ironed. I wanted something different to change it up and was very excited about trying a wash n go. To my surprise I loved it! You should definitely try it! I do have some days where my hair whoops my a$$ but it does save time through out the week, but I miss straightening it. I do at least twice a year now because wearing my hair curly is pretty cool

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    1. Hi, LeSha! Thank you for stopping by. I really enjoyed your blog on your SITS Day, and I'm glad our "bloggy paths" have crossed.

      We've got something in common: I have some days when blowing my hair straight whoops my a$$! LOL Blowing out near-waist-length hair is WORK, let me tell you.
      I've actually begun to consider it as cardio...

      Here's to hoping taming my hair in its curlier state won't be such a bear...

      Thank you for visiting -- and commenting.

      xo

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  11. Hi Courtney, why not try out the curly hair and see if you like it. If you don't go back to the straight hair! I say have fun and try it out. Have a wonderful day and week.
    Julie

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    1. I love your breezy, encouraging attitude, Julie. Yes, this isn't the end of the world. If it doesn't work, I can just return to straight hair, my 'ol standby.

      (But I really, REALLY, want this to work!)

      Sigh.

      Thank you for commenting!

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  12. Like you said, you'll never know until you try. I'm all for trying new things, and this might save you time and aggravation. It's only for 16 weeks. GO FOR IT!! (And post pics!)

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    1. Ack!!! I know, I know, Lexa. I totally backed myself into a corner writing this post -- which was actually the point. I knew at least most of you guys would cheer me on -- despite my fears -- and that is the proverbial kick in the pants I need!

      I kind of wish all of you could fit into the bathroom with me, pull up a chair, and provide words of encouragement as I create what (fingers crossed) will be a new hair option for me...

      THANK YOU for posting.

      xo

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  13. Hair hair hair...the choices we have to make. I say whatever will be easiest for you to manage. Whatever will be quick, easy and stress free. Can't wait to see what road you take xoxo :)

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    1. Hi, Mari! Sigh. The thing of it is, what with the length and thickness of my hair, there will always be some sort of work involved...period. But it's worth it to me because I LOVE my long hair -- and all the options (i.e. all down, ponytails, etc.) that come with it.)

      That said, I will try this curly thing...eventually. The question of the hour is will I return to straight immediately afterward. Hmmmm. lol

      Thank you for commenting. :-)

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  14. Come on guuuuurl, you know we want to see your hair curly. Do it for us

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    1. Twist my arm, why don't cha. lol! No, I know I've got to come correct and show the results. But I wouldn't set my expectations too high if I were you...when it comes to curly hair, I don't know what the hell I'm doing...

      Thank you for commenting, All. :-)

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  15. I vote for CURLY!!! I love our straight hair but maybe you can give it a break for the summer! I did it a couple of summers ago and never looked back!!!

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    1. Hi, Ida! Hell, if my curls turned out as good as yours, I wouldn't turn back either. I'm glad you weighed in because I have a feeling I'm going to be calling on you with a bevy of curly girl questions in the near future...

      I mean,I know we have different hair textures, but I know there is a certain curly code -- things that no one should do to curly hair (i.e. wring it out with a towel, which creates frizz, etc.) But I'm woefully in the dark about other no-nos. PLEASE stick around and stay on this journey with me.

      I. Will. Need. Help.

      Thank you for commenting!

      xo

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  16. As a curly girl myself, I vote for the curls. ;) Maybe this could be your hot summer look! Some windswept curls, delicate ringlets floating around your kids as you all enjoy the pool together?

    I'm chopping my hair off this weekend. I'd love to live vicariously through your long curly locks. ;)

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    1. Hey, there, Stephanie! it's been a while...how are you and Tycho David??? (That cutie...)

      So you're doing the big chop? Because of summer? I understand. But here's the thing: While I am keeping my hair long -- no question about that -- I might not be keeping it curly if I can't get the definition that you and a lot of my other awesomely curly-haired readers get.

      I surmise that this might be a bumpy ride for me, Stephanie. I'm used to having control over my hair...and with curly hair...I have none. :-(

      Thank you for visiting and commenting.

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    2. I've missed y'all, too! Good to see everything is going well! I just caught up on some of your older posts. :)

      And yup! I've been wanting to do it, anyway, but I figured it's best to just cut it and not have to deal with it. I admit, I'm a little jealous of women like you who can pull off long hair, but it's just not for me. ;)

      It's okay! Curly hair is meant to be controlled only to a certain extent. And look at it this way: You can always go back. I'll have to wait years for mine to grow. LOL

      Check out NaturallyCurly.com if you have a sec. Great resources on there for hair types, management, and style. I adore it so, SO much. :)

      Good luck!!

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    3. You are the second person to mention NaturallyCurly.com to me...I've got to check it out tonight and bone up on some curly reading after I put the kids down.

      You know, I feel like going curly will make me a part of a super-cool sorority of sorts...like I've been welcomed into a cool new club or something...

      I like this feeling!

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  17. I am obsessed with curly hair - mine is straight as can be and won't even hold a curl with a curling iron (don't get me started on 1980s perms). I hope you do it - can't wait to see pics.

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    1. Oh, Susan, you too? There is no turning back now -- and I absolutely cannot get out of this pickle without showing pics, either. Here's to hoping I don't look like a black orphan Annie after this is all said and done. :-/

      But I'm going to do it...I'm going to do it...

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  18. Heheh, you know... you can always try it for the weeks during swim class, and if you don't like it, you can go back. I have no comparison for this at all... I wish I had a little curl and bounce in my hair! But.... you know how to deal with it when it's straight, you'll never know about the curly till you try... and there's no law writ in stone that says curly must be permanent! Good luck!

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    1. I hear you, Dakota, and that's kind of the mantra I've been reiterating to myself: "No worries, Courtney. You can go back, you know..."

      Ahhh. Still, the pressure...

      Thank you for weighing in and providing an additional voice of reason. Not only do I appreciate it -- I NEED it. lol

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  19. I am the exact same, I know how to manage my hair straight but have no clue what to do with it curly! It gets so short and frizzy, difficult to leave it down. I say try it, you never know you might love it and it will definitely be easier for you!! I get pretty creative with hairstyles when it's curly in an attempt to tame it, side braids, up-dos, etc which works wonders for the summer months.

    Linked here through SITS!

    Ellie

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    1. Hi, Elle! Thank you for visiting...and welcome!

      You have no idea how the prospect of going curly is affecting me emotionally -- but in a good way. And I'm not trying to be dramatic here. Here's what I mean: I am Type A. I like control. Straight hair is controllable... see where I'm going with this? It's all connected. Based on your comment, I know you know where I'm coming from...

      Yeah, going curly will be an exercise in letting go. And you know what?

      I need that. I can admit that much...

      Have a wonderful weekend, my "SITSta"!

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  20. Curly hair runs in my family--my cousins have tight ringlets but my siblings and I mostly got the loose curls with a lot of body--this is my baby sister's hair after I gave her a curl-enhancing haircut but before styling, I just think it's so gorgeous: http://www.therandomwritings.com/2013/08/hairstyle-adjustment.html

    Even my husband has curly hair--or would if it was long but I keep it cut pretty short! I'm very pro curls though I definitely know the experience that they can either look amazing or be the death of you...it just depends on their mood that day...

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    1. Rachel! OMG, THANK YOU for providing this link! I shall wait until the kids are in bed tonight to take in all of your wisdom in complete and utter solitude. Well, I'll have a glass of wine by my side. ;-)

      This prospect of going curly is like going back to college: I'm reading anything and everything I can get my hands on with regard to curls, how to tame them, and the best products to use, etc.

      It's like I'm trying to obtain my BA in Curly Hair Management. lol

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  21. GO CURLY!!! I would love for my hair to do anything but be stick straight. You get the chance to master both options. Go for it. If it's too much or doesn't work out, go get a blow out.

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    1. Let's make a pact right now: Should we both wake up and discover we have super powers -- other than being awesome moms, of course -- we both switch each other's hair for a day. One. Day. I'd be lying if I didn't admit to wondering what it's like NOT to have to bust out the tourmaline flat iron every time I wanted my long locks straightened...

      ...and then you could see what a pain -- 'er, I mean, pleasure! -- it is to have curly hair.

      Trust me, I think you'd be begging for the 24 hours to end, and when it has, you will realize that I have skipped town with your hair.

      Thank you SO much for visiting and commenting. Have an awesome weekend!

      xo

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    2. You have no idea how much I love to touch my friend's hair because it's curly. I would be touching it ALL DAY and not caring that it turned into a giant uncontrollable wad on top my head. Let me know if you get super powers before me ; )

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    3. "giant uncontrollable wad on top my head."

      Dear God, Jennifer. Here's to hoping that you have not singlehandedly come up with the next description of what my hair will look like after I make the switch over to curly...

      xo

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  22. I love straight hair. I've got naturally curly hair & I've learned to live with it. Ugh, it takes so long to straighten though. I got the Keratin treatment last November & it's helped a lot. Try it natural & if ya don't like it you can always break out the straightening tools. Haha. I'm stopping by from SITS, I hope your having a great weekend!

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    1. "It takes so long to straighten though..."

      THIS, Leslie. And based on your comment above, I'd say we are kindred spirits. It was the back-breaking, excruciating practice of having to endure nearly four-hour blow-outs in order to straighten my hair that eventually made me start to ponder whether I had the guts to go curly.

      We'll see...lol

      Thank you so much for taking the time to visit and comment! I hope you'll return for my curly "reveal"...I can always use the wisdom of a curly girl, like yourself...

      xo

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  23. I have naturally curly hair that I'm constantly trying to straighten. When I finally give in and let it go curly, I get so many compliments....so go figure :) You are absolutely gorgeous, and I'm sure curly hair would be just as pretty on you!

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    1. Oh, Lana, THANK YOU so very much for your kind words. I can only hope to receive the compliments you hear as a result of your curly mane...

      Let's hope "pretty" describes" my new curly look, rather than "Female Bozo the Clown."

      Thank you so much for visiting and commenting, and as I stated in my reply to Leslie above, I sure hope you stick around because I may call upon gals like you, as I have know freakin' clue what I'm about to get myself into...

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  24. My daughter has hair very similar to yours and she just plaits it when it's wet when she doesn't want to straighten it, it stops it tangling and needing too much product. When we are on holiday (and in and out of a swimming pool all the time) it is her "go to" look. She's 19 so not a little kid.
    I think you will look amazing with curly hair if you decide to go for it. It needs a little maintenance either way but a change might be lovely. Can't wait to see pictures!

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    1. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for your words of encouragement, Julia! Really.

      You hit the nail on the head with this sentence right here: "It needs a little maintenance either way but a change might be lovely." It is the latter part about the change that has lit a fire under my bum to go for it! (Because, really, what with how long my hair is, it always requires some work... That's just the price of poker.)

      Please stick around for my change. Swim class starts the end of this week, so 'm thinking of taking the "plunge," pun intended, this weekend...

      Thank you SO much for sharing your wisdom and kind words. :-)

      xo

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  25. I say go for it! You seem to be the type that likes certain things to remain the same which is totally understandable, but I find that the unexpected changes sometimes seem to be ones that really turn out to be not so bad after all. :)

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    1. "You seem to be the type that likes certain things to remain the same..."

      Yup. Me all the way. No argument here.

      But I also agree with you 110% that the unexpected can indeed be a perfect gift.

      Here's to hoping that that gift will come in the form of curly hair! lol

      Thank you, Brittnei!

      xo

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  26. I bet your hair will look fabulous curly. At least you know it's not permanent and you can go back to straightening it. My daughter has naturally curly hair, with ringlets and all. I love it when she wears it in its natural state. Why not try it out, it's the summer time.

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    1. Oh, Monique, these are my thoughts exactly: "It's summer, Courtney! Loosen up a bit!"

      Stay tuned for the reveal, Monique; stay tuned. No one knows what I'm going to end up looking like. I kind of backed myself into a corner with this post: There's no turning back now...

      Thank you for commenting. :-)

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  27. My hair is curly right now. I'm in Florida and this humidity tortures my hair, especially not having a hair dresser and not having any good options. I don't relax or treat m hair. So far, I like it. It's been easier. Not so hard to manage and I've gotten tons of compliments since moving here! Thanks for sharing with Creative Style!

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    1. Your comment, April, has served as my proverbial cheerleader. I shall look to you as a beacon of light in what I feel could be a tremendous opportunity for change...

      I can only hope my experience is like yours...I know your hair looks fabulous!!

      (And I know what that Florida humidity is like, ay, ay, ay. That stuff is BRUTAL.)

      I'm like you, though, I refuse to relax or apply chemicals in any form...

      xo

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  28. I am an "80s" girl and have spent my life wishing for big hair. Your hair is amazing... maybe in heaven I'll have hair like yours:)

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    1. Um, Seana? THANK YOU. Although, I am hoping that, if we have the good fortune to make it to heaven, blowouts there won't take three hours. :-/

      Thank you so very much for your kind words! Really, thank you.

      xo

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  29. I know exactly how you feel, I have the same type of hair. I've mastered the art of straightening it but can't figure out how to wear it naturally and be content with the results. However, everyone else LOVES my hair natural but I havne't quite figured out how to rock it - when fully dried and combed it's a straight 70's style fro! Best of luck let me know what you decide! Have a great one Courtney! -Iva

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    1. AwesomelyOZ, I agree with 100% of what you've shared in your comment.

      All. Of. It.

      And in terms of what I've decided, let's just say that old habits die hard. You can get the quick and dirty here:

      http://www.thebrowngirlwithlonghair.com/2014/07/askawayfriday-sonya-k-asked-i-answered.html

      Thank you for sharing! I REALLY related to your comment.

      xo

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  30. Visiting from SITS and wanted to let you know how much I love your post! I went through a similar decision last winter. I got a gift certificate to my salon for Christmas and didn't want to waste it on a simple trim, so I decided to go from long hair to near-pixie. Some days I love it and some days I hate it. I hate that I have to wash it as SOON as I get up. I can't even go to the gym without taking a shower first. It is just too crazy and there is no throwing it in a pony tail. But I like it for the most part and everyone else raves about it. I saw your update and you should know that your hair is ADORABLE :)

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    1. Hi, Brittany. Let me just come and say right off the bat that I bow to you for having the courage to undergo The Big Chop. I don't think I could summon the courage.

      No. I;m not going to lie: I know I couldn't.

      Thank you for the compliment, and for taking the time to leave your comment; I enjoyed reading it!

      xo

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